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hubby is impotent from tammy

Question:
Ive begged him to go get a ck up hes 53,dad has history of heart attacks,prostrate ca,bladder ca,bad(im a nurse)at 1st he made every excuse!But hey my fault to(i let him)I felt bad,but finally last week he got a UA exam,miracle,now he hasnt told me what dr said! And the only reason he went,i sent him email(i gave up talking,making appts he cancelled)so i said

Answer:

Well you are not alone. It is estimated that impotence effects between 20 to 46% of men aged 40 to 69 (American Journal of Epidemiology). Unfortunately, because this condition is about his penis, it is directly related to his ego and therefore not something he may want to deal with. Any man experiencing impotency on a regular basis, should seek medical advice. Impotency, as you have pointed out, can be related to serious health conditions. It can also be related to depression and psychological conditions.

It is great that he went to the doctor but it appears you didn't get the results you were hoping for. Let him know that you appreciate his effort in going in the first place. Without pressure, tell this man that you love him, that you are concerned for his health and that you want to be intimate. Let him know you are scared. Be sure to use "I" statements about your concern. At the end of the day, he is a grown man and it is his health. Your love and support can make a big difference in helpin him address the real issues. If the lack of intimacy is impacting the quality of your relationship, you may also want to seek individual or couple's counseling.

Keep your spirits up while he works on getting it up. Some toys might help.

Let us know how things are going...and if you want to discuss this topic more, go to the Woman to Woman eCafe. I'm sure there are a lot of women out there that can offer some advice from their personal experience.

Shay & the Women of ChiKii